She stood in his room and looked at the hole in the wall that was now an unwelcome destructive part of the décor. To her, the hole represented their family’s brokenness. It was an outburst of anger, hurt and pain.

The spirit of anger was in their home and running rapid within their family. Over time harsh words, unforgiveness, and disrespect created a breeding ground for anger. It started off slow but being unchecked, ignited devastating results. That night, the spirit of anger showed no mercy. Its path of destruction was severe. Anger is an emotion that does not work alone. The next day silence, shame, and guilt barged in with vengeance. Hearts were broken.

All of this brought her back to childhood. Being witness to the violence and volatile explosions between people that were supposed to protect her. She did not realize how much their anger would affect her future. Our childhood home is where all our stories begin.

The deep roots of anger may go back several generations in our family line. You must combat those deep-rooted lies with God’s truth. The spirit of anger grows more destructive with time, and unless it is defeated, it will wreak havoc for future generations. The spirit of anger will push you to lose your temper and behave according to the flesh rather than the Spirit. If anger is not managed, many will be affected by its mass destruction.

Not all anger is bad or sinful.

We can have righteous anger, just like Jesus did against the money changers who set up shop in God’s temple. We can also feel angry about injustices toward ourselves or others. Life is full of unfairness. It’s human nature to feel angry when injustice occurs. The issue is not about feeling angry; it’s whether our anger is justified in God’s eyes. When we have righteous anger, God will defend us.

Anger is wrong when we handle it poorly. There are many examples in Scripture of poorly handled anger. Cain murdered his brother Abel in anger. Saul chased David for years in his jealous anger. Jonah defied God’s direct orders because he was angry. We can be angry yet choose not to sin. Bitterness, slander, fighting, and abuse are just some of the examples of what can happen when we don’t deal with anger God’s way.

We must realize that anger is a loss of self-control. If another can easily anger you, it is because you are off balance with yourself.

God’s Truth: Be angry and do not sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger, and don’t give the devil an opportunity. Ephesians 4:26-27

God’s way of dealing with anger is to be slow to anger. There are some things that you need not internalize or act on. The first thing to do after you have reacted in anger is to seek forgiveness. Ask the Lord and the one with whom you reacted in anger, for forgiveness. By asking for forgiveness, you are no longer agreeing with the spirit of anger, but aligning with the Spirit of God. The only way to defeat the spirit of anger is through the power of God’s spoken word.

We must understand that our words have power. The words you speak will affect the atmosphere around you, whether it be for good or bad. Remember, things multiply according to their kind, so speak words of life and peace.

God’s Truth: Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

When you feel the spirit of anger rising, take that moment to pause. Excuse yourself and walk away from the situation or count to ten. Use that break to call on the Holy Spirit for direction. Fight the temptation of coming into agreement with the spirit of anger. Grace will never cross the bridge of anger.

You can overcome anger with God’s help. By studying Bible verses about anger, you can learn new ways of handling your triggers. As you work to overcome anger, our Father will transform you into a likeness of Jesus, day by day. Both known and unknown sin can rob us of so much. The Lord desires for His children to walk in restoration, health, prosperity, and peace. He never said it would be easy, but He did say it was possible.

God’s Truth: With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. Matthew 19:26

God’s Truth: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

With God, we can learn how to deal with our feelings and walk in His peace.

Don’t stay angry forever. God has the right to stay angry at us but in His love and compassion, He shows us mercy. We also need to get rid of grudges and choose compassion and mercy instead of anger. By following God’s example, we can refuse to let anger take permanent hold in our hearts.

Remove anger and its fruits. Anger rarely exists on its own. It’s important that we deal with the fear, frustration and stresses that lie behind our anger issues. As you tackle your anger by studying and meditating on God’s Truth, God will transform your heart.

God’s Truth: Let all bitterness, anger, and wrath, shouting and slander be removed from you, along with all malice.Ephesians 4:31

Don’t associate with angry people. To overcome anger, you need to surround yourself with different influences. Which people, television shows, social media feeds, or other influences stoke your anger? You may need to switch up your influences for a while to remove yourself from anger’s snare. You may be surprised to learn that by removing just one or two influences, you experience greater peace in your life.

God’s Truth: Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared. Proverbs 22:24-25

 

Guard your heart. Like all our vices, anger springs up from our hearts, which are sinful by nature. You must be in tune with your heart to identify the source of your anger. Once you identify your triggers, you can literally change the course of your life. When you ask God to help you guard your heart, you will respond to anger in healthier ways.

 

Practice self-control. How many times have we said something we didn’t really mean, just because we are angry? Anger is most commonly expressed through words. By asking God to take control of your words before they are spoken, you can get a handle on your anger. This will take practice and hard work, but God will reward your efforts. Pray this verse every day for the next 30 days and the Holy Spirit will bring it to mind when you are tempted to say something in anger. You will be blessed as God guards your heart and mind.

God’s Truth: Take control of what I say, O Lord, and guard my lips. Psalm 141:3

 

Be slow to get angry. If your anger rises from simmering to boiling in just a few seconds, God wants to help you lower the temperature of your anger. God himself is slow to get angry, and he wants you to follow his example. By learning listening skills and practicing self-control, you will live the righteous life God desires. Your anger will be slower to show and will manifest itself less often.

Counseling for anger issues. Few people can overcome anger issues all by themselves. A certified counselor is equipped to help you notice your triggers and practice healthy anger management. There is no shame in asking for outside help if you are battling anger. It’s a courageous and healthy choice.

Where has anger settled in your life? A broken relationship? The injustice in our world? Financial pressure? Job loss? Divorce? Grief? Loneliness? Betrayal? The list could go on and on. We have all experienced life events that cause anger. If unchecked, anger is sure to cause destruction. However, by following God’s example you can overcome and manage anger. Your family’s future depends on it.

There is a Purpose. There is a Promise. There is Hope.